The international team of scientists found out that "who owes to whom and how much" in the relations can seriously disrupt the couple's happiness. The work was published in the journal "Personality and Social Psychology" (PSPB).
The authors analyzed the data of more than 7,000 pairs of the German family panel project, which have been consistently controlled for 13 years.
It turned out that people over time, on average, are less prone to prone records and have gone more caring model more often, helping their partner without expecting a reward. Those whose trend has decreased more slowly, have lost satisfaction with their relationship faster. Even short-term growth in the "Dealing Thinking" (for service) has reduced satisfaction or two years later.
"Our results show that when people start to focus on everything that everything is" fair "is gradually deteriorating," said Hunonto University of Toronto.
Interestingly, the similarity of partners with this indicator has not benefited. If one of them was inclined to calculate the "debt-power" calculation, the satisfaction in the couple was declining, regardless of whether the other shares such views or not.
According to the authors, love does not live with accounting books. Caring and generosity strengthen relations, and constant consideration of mutual gestures imperceptibly disrupts trust and warmth.
Translation of: Euromedia24.com
